FEATURED PHOTO’S BY MARCEL DRIESSEN
I have a long history of self harm. I have self destructive tendencies, both physically and mentally. And I also model. And that’s okay.
– trigger warning-
In this post I’m talking openly about mental health, self-harm, body-positivity and sexuality.
If you are uncomfortable with either of those subjects, I’d recommend you to click away.
IS MODELING WITH SCARS PROMOTING SELF-HARM?
By now you probably know I have a lot of scars everywhere. And I model. Why? Because I’m still beautiful. My body is beautiful. And so is yours. Look, I will never be a Victoria Secret Angel. And I don’t want to be, since I don’t want to be part of a brand which only showcases one type of beauty, because I feel like we’ve already seen enough of it. I think beauty should be defined by the individual it’s about, it’s different for everyone. You can’t just pinpoint everything that’s beautiful or ugly, it’s fluid.
I am a strong believer of enforced diversity within the modeling scene. I think it’s not okay that the only girl you ever see is thin and white. I’m not saying being skinny is ugly, it’s beautiful. But being curvy is beautiful too. And so is having self-harm scars. I think they are just a part of who I am, and they don’t take away any of my inner glow.
Recently I’ve experienced some “questions” regarding my modeling, and my proud display of my “damaged” skin. I’m saying proud, although that’s not entirely true, but that’s what the person I’m talking about used to describe me. If I show my self-harm scars without shame, that would encourage people to also hurt themselves according to this individual. Which is a logic I can’t really wrap my mind around to be perfectly honest. But they said that by making it okay to self-harm, people will do it.
So, first of, do I make it seem like hurting yourself is okay? Because in that case, I’m horribly sorry, but I do not condone self-destructive behavior AT ALL. Self-harm is never the answer. But, on the other hand, a lot of young people do it. Which is a huge problem obviously. According to Teenhelp.com “In the U.S., it’s estimated that one in every 200 girls between 13 and 19 years old, or one-half of one percent, cut themselves regularly. Those who cut comprise about 70 percent of teen girls who self injure.” This is without doubt terrible, and I wish everyone who does this, can, and will seek help for it, because you don’t have to battle this alone. But I think we do have a problem here. You see, we never talk about it, we’re supposed to hide our scars, and it’s just a really big taboo overall. I’m a firm believer that even the hard subjects should be talked about, in order to take away the shame and guilt which are seamlessly intertwined with mental health issues. If you are more open about it, it will welcome people to speak up, to seek help.
And above all, I think seeing models and just people in general rocking their battlescars without shame, shows people that it’s not the end of the world. It’s okay to be “flawed”. You might not look like the models in vogue, but you are still beautiful.
Just for your info if you were slightly confused about it, I’m still planning on covering my scars with tattoos. But I’m not doing that to conform to a more mainstream beauty standard, I’m doing that because I want to do it, it’s that simple.
FEATURED PHOTO’S BY MARCEL DRIESSEN
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