Why YOU Too Deserve To Have Body Confidence


If you follow me for a while now, it will not be too surprising when I tell you that I’m pretty open-minded. I am open about sex, mental health and stuff like that, because I think they’re very important topics to talk about. The fact that society deems it to be taboo, is not going to make me hold my breath.

– trigger warning- 
In this post I’m talking openly about body positivity, eating disorders and body shaming.
If you are uncomfortable with either of those subjects, I’d recommend you to click away.


I’m a straight-sized person. I wear women’s EU38 or US8. I’m not exactly thin, but I’m not fat either. I am slim I guess, but I have thick thighs and a lil belly. But although I’m straight-sized, I’m a plus-size model. Because from size Medium and up, you’re plus-sized in the modeling world. That’s a problem. That means if you have a ‘normal’ body, you’re too big to be worshipped according to the fashion world.

A way traditionally accepted bodies are often described is “healthy”. But can you really tell if someone is healthy just by looking at them? You might be a size 6 but maybe you got there by vomiting out your food every day. You might be a size 16 but you’re working out three times a week and you eat super healthy. Healthy looks different on everybody’s body.

By Maxim Gortworst & Marcel Driessen

As a model applying to online casting calls I often feel like I have to add a disclaimer that my body isn’t “ideal”. I have a bunch of scars everywhere. I have a higher body fat percentage than most models, and my fat isn’t distributed in a way that’s most seen in “acceptable” plus-size models either. Why do I feel such an urge to apologize for my body though? Most photographers want to work with me for my authenticity and my attitude in photos. I have a certain beauty that doesn’t have anything to do with size or how smooth my skin is. And so do you, beautiful person reading this.

The lack of diverse representation in the media is worrying. Luckily girls like Barbie Ferreira and Iskra Lawrence are changing that up a bit. They show you can have a few pounds more and still be beautiful. But we also need more women of color that are plus-sized in the fashion world. Most brands just put a black girl on the catwalk so they can call themselves diverse but are they really if the ratio is 10 white girls to 1 black girl? And if that one black girl is a mirror image of Naomi Campbell? There’s nothing wrong with looking like that, and it’s a great start, but it still doesn’t reflect the beauty of actual people in society. And what about androgynous people? They are finally more seen on the catwalk and in editorials but why do they always have to be so slender and toned? It’s very beautiful but you can be androgynous and also have wide hips and big boobs. Without that representation young people think they’re just fat and ugly even though they’re gorgeous, but they never see their body type shown as beautiful in the media.

By Maxim Gortworst & Marcel Driessen

Everybody has insecurities. Skinny people might feel like they’re too boney, they want more curves or muscles. Or perhaps you don’t like your stretch marks, cellulite, double chin, or whatever else you have imprinted into your mind is ugly. But the truth is, your body is a body. It is capable of so many things. It’s the vessel that carries your mind, which if you think about it is so weird yet beautiful! What it does without you even thinking about it, is amazing if you ask me. So why hate it because a bunch of stuck up designers and creative editors have a very twisted idea of what people want to see in their clothes? No body is a wrong body. I’m in no way saying straight sized, conventionally beautiful people aren’t beautiful, I’m just saying not JUST those people are beautiful. Beauty and sex-appeal to me are an attitude, a mind-set. You radiating confidence in who you are. You have a right to feel good about yourself.

Don’t let society tell you that you are not good enough. Whatever might set you aside from the norm, is gorgeous too. I’m not beautiful “despite” my scars, I’m beautiful. Wether you have a disability or  are part of an under-reprisented ethnicity, wether you have a small butt or a big tummy, you should love yourself and everything about yourself. And if someone else doesn’t like it, that’s their problem. Like Dita von Teese once said: “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and yet there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches”.

By Maxim Gortworst & Marcel Driessen

I’m not saying that changing the way you look, through makeup, exercise, plastic surgery or body modifications isn’t body positive. If you feel like that would make you even MORE beautiful you should totally go for it. If you want to eat healthier and exercise because your higher weight puts you in a dangerous place, losing weight is an awesome thing to do. But you should never feel like you have to. Just because you may not be at the maximum “perfect” aesthetics that you could obtain within your body type, does not mean you don’t have the right to be confident, to enjoy and love your body.



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